Move (not) in Silence

I have come across a lot of posts lately with quotes like

“Let your work speak for itself”, “Privacy is power, what people don’t know they can’t ruin”, but I disagree. Who are you venting to? If you want to start a business, you go pick the mind of someone who has started a business; we tend to talk about future goals to people who live in the past and can only imagine the now. Of course they will kill your vibe; they are not on the same wavelength. It is not the sharing that kills the dreams; it is the people you speak the dream to. When I wanted to go back to school for my second masters, I did all the research; then discussed it with my family – people who were in medicine and knew what I was embarking on and then I shared it with my friends. But the ball was already rolling, so nobody was going to rain on my parade. I knew where I was going and I was already en route.

“OPINIONS DO NOT CHANGE POTENTIAL” Myles Munroe.

If you are afraid to share your next move with a friend, then newsflash, that person is not your friend. This comes down to knowing your circle. I am not going to act like betrayal does not exist, but if everyone keeps their plan to themselves, nothing will get executed. You need people, there is no scenario that exist that you do not need a helping hand at a given time. If losses were not documented, you would never know how to succeed. We learn from our mistakes, but also we learn from the mistake of others.

We have to be strong enough to be able to share our dreams and pursue it at the same time. Be so confident in your potential that others’ opinions do not matter. There are some things to keep private, protected until they are ready to be shared. We live in a microwave world; everything has to happen yesterday. We are in a relationship for 10 days and we are parading it on social media; then we are surprised when his 3 baby mothers start commenting – and you thought he only had one. There are levels to things; there is a time to share and there are specific people who should be privileged to your dreams. Stop letting non-factors have a say in YOUR life. It is called strategy.

You ever wonder how successful people made things happen. It is not in their secrecy with their ideas or next steps – well maybe at certain moments, but more so, it was in the belief in their ideas. They were so strong-willed that even their worst enemy could not deter them from their path. “Oh you think I should not get this invention patented because no one will use it? Bet! I will not only patent it but I will sell you the first model when it has been produced. Watch me work!” Others who cannot do will always have things to say, and TIME to say. You, just worry about putting in the work; in the end, it is your idea, your goal, your dream; why would it matter if your friend does not see the merit. At most, let “the right” people guide you; you should know who you can turn to for advice.

Life is made of ups and downs, successes and failures. No one wants to share their losses; everyone wants to show their wins. There is nothing wrong with admitting when you make a wrong turn, if the dream is yours to achieve, believe you will always arrive at your destination. There is nothing more precious than self-trust. Trust your journey, your value and quiet the nay-sayers. Living my life on my own terms. No need to remind y’all how short it is. 2020 showed us early.