Maximize your singleness!

People who get married often says of the other person that they complete them, or he/she is my better half. These words are the best way they can express, explain to the world how this person is their end-all be all. They have finally found “their person” and they know this to be true because that person completes them. So does this imply before you met this person, you were not whole?

Many of us look at relationships like two quarters coming together to make a dollar, or like two sides of a bill, two slices of bread making the perfect sandwich- do not mind the food reference, I am a foodie. But this is the wrong mindset, because newsflash: you are complete just as the person you are. You are not half of a man or a woman. You would consider this an insult if someone tells you were half of anything. So why would you think of yourself as such even to express your love of your significant other.

I love this quote from Dr. Myles Munroe: “Relationships become better the more single you are.” These might have been simultaneously the most confusing and profound words I have read recently. For the longest, I have been praying to God about my lifetime mate; “the one” He has stored in some secret hiding spot, waiting to come out when the time is right. But, was I working and using my singleness the right way. About a year ago, I reconfigured my mindset. Being single is not a punishment. Being alone is. Once I made that distinction last year, it was easier for me to wait. Society has a problem with being single. For some reasons it is frowned upon if a woman is in her thirties and not married. Oh no, something must be wrong with her. She must not know how to keep a man.

I am currently single and loving every single minute of it, because I do not see it as idle time. I am working on my masterpiece. I am becoming the whole woman I am intended to be so when the time comes, my husband will not need to complete me. He is more than welcome to add to my potential, and me to his but we would be two fully complete, separate, individuals, coming together purposefully. We will be two single persons in the marriage.

What is to be single – it is to know one’s self. Would you want to be with someone who does not know what he/she wants in life; or someone so broken they need you and even break you down to come back whole. I will answer for you, no! So to my single readers, do not be afraid of your singleness, as it is your power. There is no one like you; once you grasp that concept, work at it and enter a relationship fully single, you will enjoy all the beautiful things a real relationship brings about. In the mean time, perfect what Goad has placed in your hands, YOU!