Making the best out of single life!

When did being single become a stigma? I remember my grandmother always asking me when I came to visit about any potential significant other: “No one yet? So you are going to let me die before I can see your children?” Haitian grandmothers I tell you! I am a 32 year- old single Haitian girl with no kids, a new career and discovering every single inch of myself. Being single is not a punishment; I see it as extra time given to reach your best potential. Some tips while you wait on your king:

· Work on yourself – find your spiritual self, go to the gym, get your credit up, get that degree you did not finish, take that class you always wanted. I went away for my second masters. The level of dedication and work I put in my studies, I know it would have been twice harder if I had to split my attention between school and a boyfriend.

· Date your girlfriends – yesterday I had brunch with some of my closest friends from college. We got together, laughed, reminisced and proved to each other we are worthy of enjoying this thing called life. We are all at different stages in our lives, but we made time for our sisterhood.

· Discover your purpose – sometimes you need to be removed from a relationship to tap into your full potential. A breakup might be the wake up call you have been asking for but afraid to answer. So him/her breaking up with you might be a blessing. You can send him a Thank You note later. Have you seen that meme on social media where the ex asks her if it was Mrs and she says no, Dr. Get into it!

· Pack your bags – we all have places we would want to visit. I personally have a list I keep adding to. If you were waiting on your partner to get financially ready or get the days off to go on a trip that never came, well this is your time to grab some girlfriends and travel. Go explore.

· Spend time with family – no one knows you better than your family. With the busy lives we tend to live, sometimes it takes us away from our loved ones. We no longer go to the family home for Sunday dinners, we forget to return the missed calls, we respond to texts days after. You could use this time that you are single to reach out more and be present with your family.

· Work on your health – and here, I am stressing more the mental. We could all be walking timing bombs. With the expectations of today’s culture, many find themselves only surviving and not living. Work on the mental through the physical. Kick-box out your anxiety, run your fear out on the treadmill, cry out your failed presentation in the sauna. Most importantly, be so in tune with yourself that you recognize when you are off kilt and need help adjusting.

· Enjoy – it does not get any better than that. Life is too short to keep wondering when he/she will show up, because not all of us are fit for marriage. Why waste the days you have lamenting? Life is too short and too beautiful to not embrace. Remember you are just single, not lonely.

How are you living your single life? Share with us!